How I Evaluated Myself as a Communicator
When reading this
assignment it made me to reflect truthful on my communicating abilities and
qualities; which I have never exercised before. I only thought I didn't like
speaking in public but to take a deep soul search had never entered my
mind.
The first two people I
considered was my niece and my baby sister. These two individuals told me some
things I think I already knew. My niece said when I talk to others in public
for instance at church at Bible class if the people disagree with me I take it
personal and my voice escalates and tremble with an angry tone. Furthermore,
she says my entire expresses changes. At the end of the conservation I really
end up angry and displease with the people.
My baby sister said when
I am communicating most of the time I am a cool person with casual conservation but
if someone is attacking my character or my children then I get very defensive
because my voice escalates and there is a trembling in my voice. Therefore she
knows I am upset with the person. But overall I am a cool person to communicate
with. She also feels as though I interrupt too much when I should be listening
to people conservation and love to give my opinions; which at the particular time I
should just listen and not interject.
After listening to both
parties I really surprised at their opinions of my communication and listening
skills. I thought within myself I was a cool and rashly person to communicate
with. Even though the scores kept me at middle but in verbal aggressiveness I
scored 72. I suppose my sister says I give my opinions and interrupt too much,
well that is true but I can't see or understand why would someone bring you
their problems or situations if they didn't want advice. I do know I should
allow the person to complete their subject and sometimes people just want to
vent their frustration and don't want any advice. Furthermore my niece is
correct my voice does escalates and tremble I just be trying to get my thoughts
across. I don't know about me be angry with the people but I am disappointed in
their beliefs or thought process.
I believe as a preschool
teacher I do listen and communicate with my children extremely well but with my
colleagues I can improve my skills on listening with them. I do interrupt and
give my opinions upon people when they just want a listen ear. As for the
setting at church I need to improve my tone voice and work on my opinions I
think towards others.
I appreciate your honesty, I think when you are passionate about something (family, beliefs, etc.), you are more prone to feeling as if you need to defend your position. Now that we have learned about our deficits in communication, we can continue to grow from here. ☺
ReplyDeleteHello Diane
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed reading your post. Being sensitive towards others is essential and from reading your post I can tell you are people oriented, in which means you are sensitive to others needs. I am pretty sure they do appreciate that you do take the time to listen to their point of views even though it might be frustrating at time.